If you want to save this information but don't think it is safe to take it home, see if a trusted friend can keep it for you. Plan ahead. Know who you can call for help, and memorize the phone number.
Be careful online too. Your online activity may be seen by others. Do not use your personal computer or device to read about this topic. Use a safe computer such as one at work, a friend's house, or a library.
A violent relationship puts you and your children at risk for injury and even death. Making a plan will help provide for your safety and your children's safety.
To report abuse or to get help, contact your provincial health authority. Each province has resources to help.
After you have left, you may have to take extra measures to stay safe. Your local advocacy group can help you get in touch with legal and social services in your area. This group may also provide information on counselling and support groups that can help you recover emotionally from your abuse.
Steps to take after you leave
- Contact the police to get a protective order if you are no longer living with a violent partner and he or she continues to pursue you, threaten you, or act violently toward you. Protective orders may also be called restraining orders, emergency intervention orders, peace bonds, or emergency protective orders. If you have a protective order, always carry a copy with you. Make and keep copies for work, your car, and your home. If the protective order is broken, call the police and keep good records of what happened.
- At work, tell your supervisor and the human resources manager about your situation. Discuss scheduling options and other safety precautions to provide for your well-being. Give a recent photo of the abuser to your human resources manager and, if possible, ask to prohibit the abuser's access to your workplace. Tell human resources if there is a current protective order in place.
- Document all contacts, messages, injuries, or other incidents involving the abusive person. Save all documentation.
- Change your phone number and cell phone service plan. Try to carry a cell phone with you, and program it to dial 911.
- Screen calls.
- Use caller ID.
- Use the prerecorded message on your telephone's answering machine, or have a friend record your message for you.
- Never include your name, address, or phone number in your prerecorded message.
- Change your routine. Don't park in the same spot every day or take the same route home from work.
- If you are moving, think about talking to your local shelter program about a temporary place to stay or other services they could provide.
- For people who are staying in their home:
- Change your locks, if your former partner has a key.
- If you have to meet your partner, do it in a public place. Have someone else go with you if possible.
- If your abuser comes to your home, you do not have to let him or her in. Keep the doors closed and locked, and call the police.
- Change your emergency phone contacts at work and at your children's school.
- Avoid staying alone.
- Plan how to get away if confronted by an abusive partner.
Current as ofJune 28, 2018
Author: Healthwise Staff
Medical Review: William H. Blahd, Jr., MD, FACEP - Emergency Medicine
Kathleen Romito, MD - Family Medicine
Adam Husney, MD - Family Medicine
Christine R. Maldonado, PhD - Behavioral Health
H. Michael O'Connor, MD, MMEd, FRCPC - Emergency Medicine
Current as of: June 28, 2018